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Find the right door.
There are four ways in. They're not a ladder, and the most expensive one isn't the best one. Here's how men usually sort themselves.
Most men arrive knowing something needs to change and not knowing what to sign up for. That's normal, and it's worth ten minutes to get right — the wrong doorway is how men conclude that this work doesn't take, when what actually happened is that they showed up to the wrong thing at the wrong time.
A few honest guidelines before the list.
Start smaller than you think. The men who last around here usually began with the community, not with a weekend in the woods. Intensity is easy to buy and hard to metabolize.
If you're in crisis, none of these is the answer. Call or text 988. Then find a therapist, and come back to this when the ground is steadier.
If you're not sure, the community is the cheap experiment. Sit in it for a couple of months. You'll know.
Community
Inner Circle
Choose this if: You want other men in your life on a regular basis, not once a year.
The Bedrock community — an online brotherhood of about seventy men. Gatherings, practices, and a place to say the true thing on a Tuesday.
In person
Retreats & Ceremonies
Choose this if: Something in you knows it needs to happen on land, not on a screen.
Surfing the Self — four days on the Oregon Coast — and other gatherings on land. Fire, ceremony, and a few days away from the machinery.
Ongoing cohort
Embodying Presence
Choose this if: You want a steady practice with other men, not another one-off event.
An ongoing cohort led by Ryan McGladrey. Specific practices that help you deepen into a more aware, grounded, and fulfilled man.
Ketamine therapy
ClinicalThe Intensive
Choose this if: You've done the talking and you need to get underneath it, with clinicians in the room.
Group ketamine-assisted psychotherapy for men — cohorts of eight to ten, in Sisters, Oregon. Medically screened, clinically staffed.
Still not sure?
Write to Tim in a few sentences — what's going on and what you've already tried. He'll point you at the right door, including someone else's if that's the honest answer.
tim@aspencounseling.info · (541) 872-3772